Yesterday I went to London to spend the day with my family. At first, I was planning to wear one of my very regular outfits which I like because it completely hides my body figure. Due to health and personal issues, I have gained a lot of weight during the last year and I’m apprehensive of being around my family while looking like this. However, while getting ready on the morning, I spotted a crop top and a pair of culotte pants I had recently bought. I looked outside, and it was sunny. Perfect day to wear that clothing combination. So, why not?
Yesterday I went to visit my mum and siblings in London. I always dress up to go to the big metropolitan, so this time it couldn’t be any different! Furthermore, natural hair season has just began for me and the weather was nice. So of course, I had to make a small photoshoot for my look. Hope you enjoy it!
“Recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something.”
When I picked up my camera yesterday, my idea was doing a photo shoot to showcase my outfit under the fashion category of the blog. I liked how the black jumper and the black skirt combined with my messy braids in a bun. I also decided to take pictures of my face and head, even though I wasn’t wearing make-up or anything especial: I wanted to show my hairstyle better. Unfortunately, the light in my room didn’t show enough appreciation to my clothes. When I saw the first body pictures I took , I was disappointed. I didn’t look stylish enough and the resolution of the pictures was low. However, as soon as I saw the pictures of my face, I fell in love with them. It wasn’t because I thought I looked beautiful, but because I looked raw with a hint of gloominess. I really liked how natural and simple they were. I didn’t even want to add a filter to them or retouch them. I truly appreciated the darkness under my eyelids. The brownness of my skin. The unevenness of my tone. The wildness of my eyebrows. The fullness of my lips. The blackness of my iris. The roundness of my nose. The messiness of my hair. All these features, some of which I have hated and tried to get rid of intensely, made my self-portraits look artistic. Happy by this discovery, I went back to my body pictures and forced myself to like them. I rarely ever take side pictures of my body because I’m overweight and my belly isn’t flat. I like my body shape (curvy) but I don’t like the weight/mass, due to health complications and the difficulty of finding clothing. In spite of this, I ended up liking the body pictures. They even made me appreciate my body more. All this appreciation made me feel good.
Photoset by Emilie F. Yaakaar. All Rights Reserved © 2016
PS: Here is a slideshow with outtakes that didn’t make the final photoset because they didn’t fit the theme or were repetitive, though were good shots.
A few weeks ago I attended a Welcome Party as part of my summer school program in Singapore. I loved how I looked, so here is a small fashion & beauty post!
My natural hair after I undid my Bantu Knots, which I did for the first time ever.
My simple make-up for the evening: Miley Cyrus Viva Glam Lipstick from MAC and They’re Real Eye Mascara from Benefit cosmetics. The feathers tattoo was temporary.
My clothing and accessories: dashiki, a West African shirt/tunic, brown bag from H&M, and brown sandals from Atmosphere.
1) As far as I am aware, we all have collar bones and hip bones, so saying “I want hip bones and collar bones” is ridiculous. If we didn’t that those body structures, we wouldn’t be able to be move or keep a straight posture, to start with.
2) If your collar bones and hip bones notice naturally, it is fine, because that is your composition determined by your genes. Same with thigh gap. Some people are naturally thin, or really thin, and they can’t really get fatter even if they eat a lot.
3) Just because you don’t have a thigh gap, or your bones don’t notice, doesn’t mean you are overweight. I repeat, each person’s body composition is different and doctors are who determine if you need to lose weight or not.
4) Starving yourself for a “perfect” body is not the answer, and it can have long term bad effects on your health.
5) If you want to tone up your body, increase your exercise amounts. Depending on which part of the body you want to tone up, there are different workouts which could help, and you don’t need a gym most of the times.
6) Some people are naturally thick. For instance, I don’t eat a lot of bad food, but my metabolism is very slowly, so I accumulate fat easily. I exercise to tackle this. Therefore, not everyone who is thick or fat or overweight is like that due to unhealthy habits.
7) There is not a perfect body shape. You are tall? Good. You are short? Good. You have curves? Good. You don’t have? Good. Your butt is big? Good. Your butt is small? Good. You boobs are big? Good. Your boobs are small? Good. Your legs are thin? Good. Your legs are thick? Good. You have a flat belly? Good. You don’t have a flat belly? Good. You muscles are very marked? Good. Your muscles aren’t very marked? Good. Plain or Curvy. Thin or Thick. Your bones show, your bones don’t show. It doesn’t matters. As humans, we are different, we have different body shapes.
8) I’m not saying being fat is the best. The problem is people call fat to what it isn’t fat. There is nothing cool in being overweight and there is nothing cool in being underweight. We should all aim for our ideal weight, determined by the doctor. But that doesn’t mean you have the right to call someone “skeleton” or “whale”. You should never! You don’t know the reason why that person is like that, so don’t even.
9) Fat is not an insult. Thin is not an insult. These two things are different body types, and shouldn’t be used to offend someone.
10) If your aim in life is a “sexy body” to get a boy/girl, sorry but you need to evaluate again some of your values, because it doesn’t works like that. You should do things for YOU, not for others! And image attracts, but is personality what makes people fall in love for you.
And 11) As I always say, I will never stop saying, beauty is subjective. Some people find attractive curvy bodies, others plain bodies. Others prefer big butts, others don’t. Don’t worry. You will always be attractive to someone, don’t force yourself to a body shape to impress others. As long as you are healthy, don’t put pressure on yourself to lose weight. It is ok if you want to tone up, I understand. But being underweight is as bad as being overweight. And please, society can shut up. Also remember that you are society, so you may shut up when thinking about insulting others due to their body shape.