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The Performance Zone

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Embrace Your Body Because

1) As far as I am aware, we all have collar bones and hip bones, so saying “I want hip bones and collar bones” is ridiculous. If we didn’t that those body structures, we wouldn’t be able to be move or keep a straight posture, to start with.

2) If your collar bones and hip bones notice naturally, it is fine, because that is your composition determined by your genes. Same with thigh gap. Some people are naturally thin, or really thin, and they can’t really get fatter even if they eat a lot.

3) Just because you don’t have a thigh gap, or your bones don’t notice, doesn’t mean you are overweight. I repeat, each person’s body composition is different and doctors are who determine if you need to lose weight or not.

4) Starving yourself for a “perfect” body is not the answer, and it can have long term bad effects on your health.

5) If you want to tone up your body, increase your exercise amounts. Depending on which part of the body you want to tone up, there are different workouts which could help, and you don’t need a gym most of the times.

6) Some people are naturally thick. For instance, I don’t eat a lot of bad food, but my metabolism is very slowly, so I accumulate fat easily. I exercise to tackle this. Therefore, not everyone who is thick or fat or overweight is like that due to unhealthy habits.

7) There is not a perfect body shape. You are tall? Good. You are short? Good. You have curves? Good. You don’t have? Good. Your butt is big? Good. Your butt is small? Good. You boobs are big? Good. Your boobs are small? Good. Your legs are thin? Good. Your legs are thick? Good. You have a flat belly? Good. You don’t have a flat belly? Good. You muscles are very marked? Good. Your muscles aren’t very marked? Good. Plain or Curvy. Thin or Thick. Your bones show, your bones don’t show. It doesn’t matters. As humans, we are different, we have different body shapes. 

8) I’m not saying being fat is the best. The problem is people call fat to what it isn’t fat. There is nothing cool in being overweight and there is nothing cool in being underweight. We should all aim for our ideal weight, determined by the doctor. But that doesn’t mean you have the right to call someone “skeleton” or “whale”. You should never! You don’t know the reason why that person is like that, so don’t even.

9) Fat is not an insult. Thin is not an insult. These two things are different body types, and shouldn’t be used to offend someone.

10) If your aim in life is a “sexy body” to get a boy/girl, sorry but you need to evaluate again some of your values, because it doesn’t works like that. You should do things for YOU, not for others! And image attracts, but is personality what makes people fall in love for you.

And 11) As I always say, I will never stop saying, beauty is subjective. Some people find attractive curvy bodies, others plain bodies. Others prefer big butts, others don’t. Don’t worry. You will always be attractive to someone, don’t force yourself to a body shape to impress others. As long as you are healthy, don’t put pressure on yourself to lose weight. It is ok if you want to tone up, I understand. But being underweight is as bad as being overweight. And please, society can shut up. Also remember that you are society, so you may shut up when thinking about insulting others due to their body shape.

Misfits, Kids & Love

 
“Welcome to the island of the misfit toys.”- The Perks of Being a Wallflower (Movie)
 
I don’t even know if this can qualify as a quote. To me it is, therefore I don’t care about anything else. «Misfit toys». Good way of defining people who go against society and it’s rules and trends. I’m happy to be between that people. I wouldn’t change it for anything. Forever a bookworm. Forever a geek. Forever a wallflower. I opted to be in this wonderful island.
“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” – The Help (film)
 
This is one of my favourite moments of the film. I mean, even if you are little, you need someone to tell you positive things about yourself. To cheer you up. To lift your self-esteem. Because sometimes, a lack of these in your childhood can lead to a lack of confidence in your adulthood. Children need to be loved also. If you tell them positive things, they will grow believing truly in that positive things. The power of words is immense.
“It’s so good to love someone so much that it hurts. I don’t know how people survive this. Honestly, I don’t.” –LOL (film)
I have never been in love, so this quote terrifies me. Is Lola correct? I can understand how much hurts loving someone who doesn’t loves you back. But someone who actually loves you back? I imagine that it still hurts, yet I can’t understand why. I may figure it out someday. I don’t know, I’m scared of loving. And of being loved. I don’t think my heart will be able to handle it, suffering is not my thing.

The Importance of Kindness and Emotions [WATCH]

Humans we tend to be selfish and do things only when we get something out of it. Why? Because we always want profit and materialistic rewards. What is the meaning of helping? What is the meaning of giving? What is the point of being good to others? What is the point of lending a hand without receiving anything back? If you have ever asked yourself that questions, please check the following video. If you have never asked yourself that questions, check it too. Your perspective on life might change after it.

Leadership Is Without Doubt A Prodigious Skill

According to Oxford’s English Dictionary, leadership is “the action of leading a group of people or an organization, or the ability to do this”. Leadership is an important skill that not everyone has naturally, but most people can develop if they work on it. However, not everyone wants to be a leader: some people prefer being followers. And it is fine. Leading a group of people can be hard and time consuming, and some people don’t have the mental strength and patience to do it.

Leadership is needed to run groups of people in settings such as workplaces, schools, organisations, councils… It is also imperative when comes to managing projects, mainly your own projects, such as business ideas to gain profit or social campaigns to raise awareness. In addition, there are other situations in life in which leadership appears, sometimes unconsciously. For example, in most groups of friends, there is a leader. Someone that keeps the group together, makes plans, makes sure everyone stays involved… Normally, this leader isn’t deliberately chosen. A lot of times, leaders won’t even realise they are leaders. Nor will their friends. But they are. It just happens naturally.

Moreover, leadership is an ability that can be used right or can be used wrong. In theory, this skill is neutral, but in practice, when people talk about great leaders, they often talk about people that strived for success and accomplished things, things that benefited others. Examples of notorious people who showed remarkable leadership skills include historical figures such as Hatshepsut, Indira Gandhi, Nelson Mandela and Martin Luther King. Many people reach high positions, but not all of them flourish. I always say there is a difference between being a boss and being a leader. Bosses give orders. Leaders give guidance. Bosses supervise people. Leaders work with people. Bosses act as superiors. Leaders act as equals. Bosses worry about their goals. Leaders worry about the goals of the whole group. Bosses just rule. Leaders actually achieve. Bosses control. Leaders influence. Bosses walk alone. Leaders walk with the masses. Bosses have power. Leaders are powerful.

However, it is important to know that there are different types of leadership. There are various ways of leading and succeeding. It all depends on the personality of the leader, the people that are being lead and the aim of the whole group. In many cases, leadership is divided in three styles:

  • Directive: carried out with authoritarian attitude. Directive leadership involves creating structures and activities to keep the group engaged. Under this style, leaders choose and provide tasks for group members. They also offer positive/negative feedback and they may give rewards or punishments. Directive leadership is about taking the full command. It may be needed if a group is poorly motivated to work, if a group doesn’t reach a decision, or if a group doesn’t function well due to lack of discipline.
  • Democratic: carried out with an egalitarian attitude. Democratic leadership involves creating open discussions, asking questions to the group before making decisions and encouraging the active participation of others. Under this style, leaders run polls to make decisions that everyone agrees with. Democratic leadership is about making sure every member of the team feels heard and important. It may be needed when a group is motivated to work, if a group can make decisions easily, and if a group has a good discipline and work ethic.
  • Delegative: carried out with a “laissez-faire” attitude. Delegative leadership involves deferring important tasks to group members. Under this style, leaders don’t like to make decisions for the whole group, they use non-verbal gestures and movements to show support and agreement, and they often rely on silence during meetings and brainstorm moments, till another person in the group has something to say or add. Delegative leadership is about waiting for other sub-leaders to appear in the group, which in some cases can lead to the disappearance and replacement of the leader for another person more capable. It may be needed when a group is very motivated work, if a group can make decisions without consulting the leaders, and if a group has a very good discipline and work ethic.

These three styles of leadership are not mutually exclusive: they are more linked to the type of situation in which leaders find themselves. Sometimes you need to direct, sometimes you need to be democratic and sometimes you have to delegate. A great leader is able to adapt to each style depending on the needs of the group and always with the purpose of improving performance.

Another aspect about leadership to talk about is what type of qualities a good leader has. In my opinion, good leaders should have passion, ambition, strength, ethics, understanding and extrovert personalities. Passion because it translates into motivation. Ambition because it means desire for success. Strength because it helps to cope with problems. Ethics because they prevent illegalities and corruption. Empathy because it ensures that all members of the group feel understood and heard. And extrovert personalities because they keep the group engaged.

Nevertheless, I think this aspect of leadership is a subjective topic, which is why I headed to Spring.me to ask my followers about their opinions. My open question was: “Can you tell me a good quality every leader should have?”. And here are the answers.

“Meekness, compassion, honour, strength, charisma, love.” -Mealltaaingeal

“It’s a bit cliché to say this, but one of the best traits in a leader is someone who doesn’t want to BE the leader. They are more likely to do the job that needs doing rather than using their position for personal gain.” –Eediot

“Universal compassion.” –Genosidoh

“Humility.” –AwesomeErudite

“Personally, I find the best leaders are ones who lead from the back. It’s a style I use in my work life and my day to day. People can usually do things well with only guidance.” –MisterWhoX

“Compassion.” –MechWarriorNY

None of these responses are wrong or right: they are mere opinions, which to me, compliment what I said. If you have your own ideas on good qualities that leaders need, I invite you to leave your opinion below.

To sum up, leadership is without doubt a prodigious skill, which not everyone is born with, but many can be taught. It is required in many life situations, either formal or informal, and it can be either voluntarily or involuntarily: visible or invisible. Leadership can be used for the good or for the bad: however, to go down as a memorable and loved leader, you must accomplish things that impactl positively on other’s lives. Always try to be a leader: avoid being a boss. Bosses are cherished but leaders are respected. And don’t worry if your way of leading is different to other people’s way of leading. Different styles exist. Just learn how to adapt to different environments.