“Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass; it is about learning to dance in the rain.”
This quote is a kind of metaphor: it refers to life problems as a storm, while dancing would be having a good time, and the rain, again, would be life problems.
I agree with this quote because life is continuous storm and if you just wait for it to end, you will miss out the best moments you could ever experience. When something bad is happening, you can’t just sit and wait for a random solution. You need to act, in a way or another. If that bad something is affecting your emotions deeply, letting your soul to be consumed by depression and anxiety isn’t the answer. Everyone is entitled to be sad, as much as everyone is forced to get up afterwards. Falling is an option; getting up is imperative. Bereavement, heartbreak, abuse, traumatic experiences, illness…. These situations can be devastating, over analysing them is normal, and feeling horrible about them is human. However, you need to be able to see the light through the pain, and carry on with life. It is difficult, but it is worth it.
One of my idols, Miley Cyrus, said once a phrase related to this topic, which I like very much: “You can’t live a positive life with a negative mind.” This is so true. If you see all grey, and reality is grey, your life will be grey. In contrary, if you see all bright, even though the reality is grey, your life will be bright. Life is about perspectives and opinion: you are who determines a situation as positive or as negative.
However, in spite of everything I said above, I believe that negative moments and feelings need exist. It may sound awful, but that is how I see it. This is something I call, “The Positives and Negatives Balance”. You need negative feelings to experience positive feelings. I made a list of some examples so you can understand what I’m trying to say. This list isn’t exhaustive, and you can try to add your own thoughts on the comments belows:
“Without dark, you would never notice the light.
Without cruelty, you would never value kindness.
Without selfishness, you would never be glad about generosity.
Without bad people, you would never recognise the importance of good people.
Without pain, you would never understand comfort.
Without disease, you would never appreciate good health.
Without sadness, you would never perceive happiness.
Without death, you would never comprehend the meaning of life.
Without tears, you would never be aware of the power of a smile.
Without mistakes, you would never learn.
Without bitterness, you would never taste sweetness.
Without going backwards and evaluating your past, you would never go forwards and have a better present.
Without nightmares, you would never be happy about sweet dreams.
Without noise, you would never grasp silence.
Without heartbreak, you would never take care of your heart.
Without emotional breakdowns, you would never be thankful for ecstasy moments.
Without anger, you would never distinguish calm.
Without conflicts, you would never welcome harmony.
Without stress, you would never acknowledge relax.
Without betrayal, you would never be grateful for trust.
Without difficulties and effort, you would never be pleased about trophies.
Without storms, you would never dance.”
Reflecting a bit on life,
Emilie H. Featherington